"Miss Know It All, I’m having a really hard time with my friends. I don’t have any I like but am part of a large friend group. I recently started talking to this guy but my friend has a crush on him. I don’t like this friend but she’s pressuring me to be loyal to her and I feel like I have no one to talk to. No one understands me. What should I do?"
Dear LonelyGirl07,
I would like to start this message by just saying, I understand. Friendships can be very messy, especially in bigger friend groups. I was in one myself and let me just say, it was not easy. As to your problem, here is my opinion. If you genuinely like this guy, like not just a stupid little crush, then I say go for it. But don’t use the guy as an excuse for leaving the friend group. It sounds like you’ve thought about this for a while, and have been waiting for someone to give you a reason to leave. If you want to be loyal to your friend, then be loyal. But it sounds like you don’t like any of your friends and I think you’re only being loyal because of guilt. You may feel a sense of guilt or that you have to stay with the group. Realistically speaking, this is high school. Chances are, you won’t be friends with half the people you are with now. This may seem like a really big problem, but the truth is, it’s simple. It all depends on how you do it. If you just up and leave the friendship for the guy and give no explanation to your friends, then they’ll just assume the worst and make you out to be some horrible crush-stealing jerk. But if you had a civil conversation with your friends about how you feel, and try to find a solution, it would end much better for all parties involved.
Thank you for submitting your question,
Hope this helped,
Miss Know It All